tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post6158869726234075937..comments2024-03-29T09:38:07.716-04:00Comments on Blue House Journal: Iced Tea Chat: The Eyes of the Beholderterricheneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06865436021565986224noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-69996739497648955592016-06-30T09:24:12.114-04:002016-06-30T09:24:12.114-04:00I've learned that a big "boo-hoo" ca...I've learned that a big "boo-hoo" can help clear the air around here, too. It's not something that I meltdown into very often, but occasionally, it happens. Praise God for a loving, caring husband to help me through. It sounds like you have a gem, as well.<br /><br />We put in an offer on a house last week, but did not get it. They received an offer $15,000 over the asking price, and we were simply outbid. I have deep peace about it. We had prayed that God would NOT allow us to get it if it wasn't the right house. Still, I am thinking that after 5 weeks in the camper, I am wondering when we will be able to start moving forward....... It's all in God's hands and His timing is perfect--I just have to keep reminding myself of that. So far, it has not been as stressful as I had worried that it might be. We seem to be getting along all right. I am the kind, as you are, that needs alone time, though, and that's a bit hard to get right now. <br /><br />One of our daughters needs music so badly that we brought both her guitar and an electronic keyboard in the camper where every item counts because of space. It soothes and calms her in a way nothing else can. So, I get that one:) How nice if your grandson can learn from an early age to cheer himself up with something so accessible and pleasant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-42535886850918438912016-06-29T22:52:23.273-04:002016-06-29T22:52:23.273-04:00I do so relate to your needing some alone time, an...I do so relate to your needing some alone time, and also having a good cry. We hit the 2nd anniversary of Jess and the boys moving in with us this past week. Most of the time I know how blessed we are to be such a big part of the kids' lives, but there are days when I feel like a maid and just get tired of the mess. There have been a few instances that ended up with me locked in my bedroom and having that good cry into my pillow. <br />I am so glad to read about how well you and Bess get along. That has made this time much easier for you, I'm sure. I'm proud of you for opening your home to them and disrupting your routine for a few weeks. What a precious time with Josh, too. That special bond will always be there with him. Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396880852810370044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-83046005524514233872016-06-26T16:30:10.944-04:002016-06-26T16:30:10.944-04:00I know I become unbearable when over tired. I cant...I know I become unbearable when over tired. I cant even stand myself & my dh has often padded my back & put me t bed. With enough sleep I am a totally different person. <br /><br />We live in a mutifamily home. My oldest dd & dgd live in our basement & my dh stayed home to care for her when my dd moved back after her divorce. dgd's father was absent & no child support & dd did not want her in daycare for hours everyday. She & I worked & papa became caregiver. it worked wonderfully. they have an apartment down their & my youngest came back after her marriage failed & she had medical issues. She sleeps in her own room downstairs but is often gone or up here. dd2 came home to run the house after major medical near death of me. She moved in until finding her own place & the market & car industry crashed her hours were cut & she couldn't afford to move. It took me over a year to get anywhere near normal& due to the care of my children & dh I was able to do it at home not a nursing home.<br />DD2 has her own space upstairs but takes meals with us. The others do their own thing downstairs She is still a big help as are the others when I ask. As Bess said many say OH NO but we get along fine. They all contribute money witch helps us & we were blessed to be part of raising my dgd. God has been goodAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04947514816620303933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-20529675787297796142016-06-24T16:37:50.261-04:002016-06-24T16:37:50.261-04:00Now I have a word to describe it...evil head. I k...Now I have a word to describe it...evil head. I know what that means....and how it feels. I have sort of sat back and 'seen' myself during those thoughts. Not good. Can't seem to pull myself out of it. Best to get alone. To get on equal emotional ground. I can sure see how I am perceiving what others say or do as I see it,,not always as they intended things to be taken. Somehow though there is a striking point and it can come up so quickly it can surprise even me. Hearing others get these feelings too is a real help though. I guess this is just how humans sometimes get... :-) Although it is brief it upsets me though that I get so upset. I have had friends that I sometimes think are never upset over anything. <br />I think we try to put on a happy face so to speak while inside we are over tired. And at times trying to do with two hands what would be better spread among 4 people. Life is often hard to balance. Put that together with little good sleep and you have problems.<br />Our young family members have spruced and changed their homes in the short time they have had them. They did the work themselves and paid for each change as it happened. Our family home though is still about the same since we moved in. Just keeping the house structure sound is the main goal now!! :-)))<br />Time marches on,..and too fast! I have to remind myself that even the very rich people know of others with homes they too envy. Humans are never completely satisfied. Compromise is always needed. Even if I wish it wasn't. lol<br />Our family grew up with streets and streets of homes with multi-generational family living in them. At the least one parent or aunt or uncle. I always though that is how it should be. Could I live like that though? I know it depends on the personality of each member but everyone needs some breathing space. Also compromise. <br />My time here has been mainly spent on trying to keep the yards and garden alive in the heat. We are to cut way back on watering and there can be a conflict there. We do not water our lawns at all. We all do our best to gather and use gray water etc. Every state has its own weather problems. <br />I too love to hear your family news. I bet you look at the grandchildren and it seems hard to believe they are your children's children. Just yesterday it seems they were that size!! <br />That ice tea with mint sounds good...I think I will make some. SarahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-40442552455136936632016-06-24T11:20:51.918-04:002016-06-24T11:20:51.918-04:00I forgot something I was going to say - I'm wo...I forgot something I was going to say - I'm wondering if your back is simply stress. You've been fighting so hard to keep it all together and to work through feelings and adjust to a full house. Karlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07251936768042830801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-24795107664996170872016-06-24T11:18:57.122-04:002016-06-24T11:18:57.122-04:00Another ditto from me on Mimi's post. We do it...Another ditto from me on Mimi's post. We do it because we care and we love and we sacrifice and we sometimes don't know how to be just us.<br /><br />I'm so glad you've gotten the chance to vent it all out. Sometimes that's the best thing there is. Your Granny was right - it's so therapeutic even if no answers are found right away. <br /><br />I pray for the Father to set you right again - in His gentle timing, in His gentle way. Perhaps even setting you new. Thank you for sharing your heart so honestly and openly. It is good for us gals to stick together and just be there to encourage and lift up and pray for.<br /><br />Blessings this weekend!Karlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07251936768042830801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-36745060533186210882016-06-24T09:27:34.715-04:002016-06-24T09:27:34.715-04:00I agree with the others here. You have done so we...I agree with the others here. You have done so well with all the weeks of sharing your home and being such a wonderful hostess and grandmother. You will need to give yourself a few days of total rest when they have moved to their own home. Try not to look at everything that needs to be done as a whole because it is just overwhelming! I do it too!<br /><br /> What a wonderful DIL Bess is to you. I have one like her too and the other two are just not the same. I suspect I am just not ever going to be good enough for the one and I will not be someone I am not.<br /><br />I love all the pictures of the sweet babies. Josh will not forget you after being in your home for such a long time. You and Grandpa will always have a special place in his heart. <br /><br />Having spent months looking for a smaller home I can tell you for sure that they are never as nice as pictures imply. I have often been quite shocked at the state of a house that looks good online in the pictures because things like decades old wallpaper often just do not show up. In the listing they may say there is a new kitchen only to find that they just spruced it up and chose awful colors. My heart was broken over a house we really wanted this week. We put the first contract on it and then the next day they got another one. At that point the seller decided to try to pit us against each other and drive up the price. The house was worth more than they had listed it for but what they did was not right. When the deadline on ours had passed we decided to withdraw and not play their game. My mind keeps going there and placing our furniture and picking paint colors. It seemed that God had sweetly given us the desires of our heart for our next home in so many ways. I cried and cried and have tried so hard not to be bitter toward the sellers by giving it to God over and over. I feel bad for my husband too because it had his dream of a workshop which he has admitted he was loathe to give up on. As I have said before, I do envy you for not having to downsize and being able to stay where your children were raised. Your home will always be so. We know that we cannot continue to manage this one for much longer.<br /><br />Lanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09380649410508372279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-5471653808403819392016-06-23T20:30:10.538-04:002016-06-23T20:30:10.538-04:00Terri, I agree totally with Mimi.. We cover and ho...Terri, I agree totally with Mimi.. We cover and hold our feelings to ourselves to do for the others in our family.. And when it builds up........... We get very tired..Proud John took you for the ride and let you cry..Sometimes, we have to have that time..<br />Know you will miss Josh and parents.. When we have them with us everyday, it is so hard ,when they leave..<br />Take care of yourself...slowly we will get it ALL done.<br />I loved hearing ,how Josh. went to the piano room to vent his unhappiness...just like grandpa.<br />I am also so proud of your DIL, telling you how she loved your home, and wanted her home to feel the same way. What a sweet DIL, and I agree with her. all the things you do in your home, I just know it is so lovely..Sew Blessed Maw [Judy]https://www.blogger.com/profile/15474519379303505290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6959918163454225829.post-21153887151338661992016-06-23T19:53:40.003-04:002016-06-23T19:53:40.003-04:00Dear lovely Terri...I almost cried reading this po...Dear lovely Terri...I almost cried reading this post. I think we all get to the end of our tether sometimes and I daresay many of your readers will find themselves nodding in agreement. We, Mothers that is, are so good at putting others first, that sometimes we forget that in order to be in a position to continue to do this, we need to put ourselves first. I'll be sure to link this post in one I have planned very soon. Love, Mimi xxxMimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12189100084557458199noreply@blogger.com